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The biggest obstacle isn't that you know how to do a good budget-although maybe you don't-or that you have too much debt-although you might-the biggest obstacle is the inability of a husband and a wife to sit down, around the kitchen table, and talk about it.īob: And there are all kinds of reasons why these things are hard to talk about. It's, believe it or not, the biggest obstacle to financial freedom and generosity, and people being on the same page about tithing, and all the other stuff that comes along with life and a healthy financial life. And we did, by the way-we should have mentioned that last time-that we actually, statistically, found that-that is the factor that is the most important for the relationship-if you can talk about money. Jeff: And talking about it is what moves the needle in the relationship. You deal with those, suddenly, talking about money comes kind of naturally. It's about all this stuff running under the surface/all these other factors.

When you're avoiding talking about it or whatever, it has nothing to do with that.

Shaunti: When you're having tension around money, it's not about the money. Remind us what that is, and then let's go from there. Obviously, my wife needs your help so- No, we're kidding-we all need your help.Īs you dove into the research and said, “Okay, we're going to find out what's going on in the world and marriages with money,”-we've already talked about you had a big surprise. Even the title's like: “Can you thrive in a marriage with money at the center?” So, let's keep going this is a hot topic. We've been talking about for love and money-really the book is Thriving in Love and Money. Shaunti: That's all I'm-that's the reason I'm sitting here.ĭave: Now we know. But when that happens, there's conflict ahead.ĭave: The fun thing-we're talking about money-and I think we have Scrooge McDuck and the Material Girl as our guests-am I right? Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn are with us, and they're a little bit like the Wilsons in terms of money. īob: This is a very interesting way to start this program, where Scrooge McDuck and the Material Girl are man and wife. We've got our host, ScroogeMcDuck, and his wife-is that the appropriate way to introduce your husband?īob: Well, you are-I don't have a name I don't have a character.ĭave: I think a Material Girl. Stay with us.Īnd welcome to FamilyLife Today. The question is: “In marriage, can we figure out how to make our differences work for us instead of working against us?” We'll talk more about that today. Different people have different perspectives on money for different reasons. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson I'm Bob Lepine. I was working all these hours all the time, in order to preserve what I thought was my job to keep myself secure in that position, so we could reduce this debt.īob: This is FamilyLife Today for Tuesday, July 21 st. Jeff: I was focused on just hammering away at debt.

I was working at a big law firm, and we had brought $135,000 of student loan debt to the marriage this was in the mid-‘90s. Jeff: Both, fresh out of graduate school, we were living in Manhattan.

Bob: Are your views about money shaped more by your life experience or by your personality/your temperament? Author, Jeff Feldhahn, says the research shows both are a factor.